Reminders from iOS 13 / macOS 10.15 Reminders aren't syncing

When you launch Reminders the first time on iOS 13 or macOS 10.15, it asks you if you'd like to "Upgrade" your reminders. If you choose "Yes", then these calendars will no longer sync over CalDAV and thus will not work with third party apps.

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